You do you.

Who are better moms: stay at home moms vs working moms. Which is more painful: natural birth vs c-section. Whose kids are happier: moms with messy homes vs moms with neat homes. Which is better: breastfeeding vs formula milk. THIS IS A NEVER ENDING DEBATE! 

Mothers who choose to work is not more superior than those who choose to be at home, just as stay at home mothers are certainly not more holier than those who choose to work. Our lives are different; some people want to, some people have to. YOU DO YOU. 

Any types of birth is painful, unless yeah, HELLO EPIDURAL! It does not make you a better mother just because you went through 36 hours of painful labour and give birth to your baby all natural, pankiller-free and what not. It just make you a woman who was in pain for 36 hours. C-section has its shares of pain as well, oh the recovery is longer! Trust me, I’ve been through both, and believe me when I say all kind of labour and child birth are painful. What matters is your baby shall be delivered healthily, that is all. Other than that, your choice. YOU DO YOU. 

Messy homes do not necessarily equal happy children. Yes you let your kids play and be messy but so do most mothers with clean, organized homes. Or maybe you have a designated play room, lucky you! In my case, my kids will scatter their toys starting from their room to the hall to the side porch. LOL. What’s important is both you and your kids are happy. If you are OK with messy homes, then so be it, let it go let it go. If you’re a neat freak, then it is ok too, good for you! Go clean your house every 15 minutes. YOU DO YOU. 

Breastfeeding has its benefit but it has so many cons as well. Like, well, a baby attached to your boobies isn’t exactly fun, you know? And not everyone has abundance of milk. Not every boobies are the same just as not all babies are the same. If you prefer to breastfeed and you can, do it! It’s good. But if you don’t want to or you can’t, it is OK too! Just make sure your baby is fed. That is the most important bit of raising a child. FED IS BEST. YOU DO YOU. 

Stop this vicious mommy-shaming cycle. Stop this never ending debate. Just do whatever works for you and your family. As long as your kids are happy, well fed, well behave, are not neglected and go to school, I think you’re on the right track, mommies. YOU DO YOU!